Well, yesterday my husband, my son (although he doesn’t really understand what it means) and I found out that we will have a baby girl in the house. According to my son, we should name her ambulance and train. At least she will have a unique name. 🙂
I’m not going to lie. I’m kind of freaking out. Girls are complicated, and with all the pressures that women face in this world… well, I will have to do my best to prepare her for society.
I’ve decided to compile a list of the things that I want my daughter to know. And for parents that have daughters, feel free to comment with your advice too, I would love to know what other parents are thinking. This is my…
Top 6 Pieces of Advice for My Daughter
1- GOD is REAL
I will never force you to love God or abandon you, should you choose not to believe in him. But my dear daughter, God is real and he has proven himself to me over and over again. I hope one day that you too can establish your own relationship with God. You will never be led astray by putting your trust in the will of God. Please consider this.
2 – FAILURE is an OPTION.
In order to fail, you must try. Failure does not mean you aren’t headed in the right direction. It just means you are taking the WRONG path for the right destination. Remember this when that boy breaks your heart, or when you don’t get the job you wanted. There is nothing wrong with falling short of our goals. All that matters is that you KEEP trying to make it happen.
3 – BRAIN over BODY
Your physical appearance could make you the most beautiful woman in the world, but that is not where you should rest your head. Otherwise you are chasing the wind. Physical beauty is not a crown that will stay upon your head forever. Your body will not be the same when you are 15, 25, 45 and 85, but your brain can improve with age–should you chose to invest in it. You can be smart and physically beautiful. My daughter, if you are going to invest in your beauty, invest in your brain: Your brain, your intelligence, your ability to think for yourself makes you the most beautiful woman in the world always.
4 – SKIN is NOT BAIT
As you get older, you will see your friends, your peers and even society show you how to dress for men. They will show you how to attract males with your clothing choices. But remember this: the more skin you show, the less quality of a man you are attracting. The most precious of gems are buried deep beneath plain sight–this is why they are treasured, because they are so hard to find.
5- KNOW your WORTH
People will try hard to make you feel like you are less than what you are worth, but this is only because they also feel worthless, and they need to know that the sum of their value is equal to everyone else. Do not let anyone make you feel worthless. You’ve been given life, and even if you feel like you are worthless, all it takes is an act of kindness to remind us of how WORTHWHILE we can be to even the smallest of creatures.
6 – Be KIND
This may seem like a no brainer. But it is important to know that “people may not always remember what you say or do, but the will always remember how you made them feel.” When you are kind to strangers, kind to people who don’t deserve your kindness, and kind to people that your friends are not kind to–you will remind them all of how they will REMEMBER you. Be kind to the weird kid in your class. Be kind to the waiter that serves you food. Be kind to the janitor at your school. Regardless of where society may places us in the food chain, we are ALL EQUAL. Be an advocate for those of whom people are not always kind to.